Recently, I’ve been struggling. Not just struggling to write or blog or anything like that. Genuinely struggling. I’ve been back at work for a few months now working similar shifts every week so that’s not changed, I still have a toddler to run around after so that hasn’t change either. But I’ve been so tired. And I’ve fallen out of love with things. I don’t find much joy in what I’m doing at the moment, so I haven’t written or blogged. I haven’t read any new books or had any nice relaxing bubble baths & me time. I get up & go to work, come home & go to bed. Or I get up, get into routine with little bear, shower when he’s gone to bed then go to bed myself. I just have no motivation. I’ve lost it. My mind is elsewhere constantly & I’m just feeling so down and sad. Thing is, I couldn’t put my finger on what exactly has triggered this, but when speaking to my counsellor, she told me it was a build up of things.
I go to counselling once a week. That’s the only time other than going to work, where I can be alone and able to speak to someone about everything. She’s really great. I can tell her anything without fear of judgement (okay maybe sometimes I feel like she will but I can be more open with her) I can rant on about anything that’s bothering me and she doesn’t really comment on it from an opinion perspective, so I only really feel bad when I’m talking & realise that I’m actually the idiot in the room.
Back to what I’m trying to say. I haven’t blogged in over a month. I’ve got all of these ideas flowing out of me, I have to write them all down whether it is on my WordPress app or in my notebook. But then, I never come to write them. When I think “right, I’ll write that one tonight” I never do. But I want to change that. I need to write again. Writing for me is not as therapeutic as it is for many others, but it’s my hobby that I like to do, it keeps my mind focussed on something other than all of the other things going around in my head. But I thought I’d ask some fellow bloggers for some tips and advice as I feel its good to see what helps other people. Everyone is so different, and when we all get into a rut with things, we look at it differently.
Sarah from Boo, Roo and Tigger Too said: “I try to write top 10 posts such as top 10 songs I dance to in my kitchen etc. I find writing to a prompt much easier. So try writing your subheadings first and then go back and complete the corresponding paragraph”.
“If I lose my motivation with my work I tend to look to my blogger friends for support and help but I will also take a step back and not force any ideas. I know that there will be times when tiredness or illness will take over and I need to be back to my normal self to be at my best in writing. Ideas can suddenly pop into your head for all sorts of reasons and before you know it you will be on a roll again!” Commented Emma Reed
Quite a few people commented about how they look back over their posts and remind themselves how far they’ve come & why they started blogging:
Becka from Mummy EST. 2014 commented “I go back and read my first few blog entries. It usually reminds me a) why I started b) how far I’ve come”.
Suzanne from And Ruby Makes Four said “I find reading through old posts reminds me why I love blogging. I’ve covered everything from our wedding to our home & now our 1st baby! So many memories, it always reminds me of good times when I’m feeling low”.
and Amy from The Smallest of Things said “Remember why you started, for me it’s to document the memories and often I forget that”.
Some other bloggers tend to look at it from a different perspective and might try something new like..
Becka Shepherd says she “finds sitting and writing something completely from the heart really helps! Even if its off “brand” or not in my niche, just writing what I’m feeling! I’m always motivated to write about Sophie if I’m really struggling”.
Emily from Babies and Beauty commented “When I struggle I think of what I enjoy to read, and go with that. I love to read more personal posts so I tend to stick to that”.
and Emily from A Slummy Mummy said ” Just ask yourself, where is this pressure coming from?! Comparison is the thief of joy so don’t look at how often other people blog and feel inadequate. If you wanna write that day: do it! If you don’t fancy it: don’t. There is no right or wrong way to run your site. Have a quick idea but don’t want to faff about putting it in a post? Just write some lines on Facebook and interact with your readers that way, you can always ‘blog it’ later. Have a little chat on twitter. Don’t focus on perfection!” Which I think is amazing advice!
Another angle to look at it was raised by Lix Hewett, she said “You know what motivates me? Money. Essentially seeing that the blog is paying off literally starts some sort of momentum that keeps me going”.
So essentially, I found that everyone looks at it differently. When they get stuck in a rut and need motivation or just need to take a little time out. It’s good to know that that’s okay. For some, their motivation is to keep going and aiming towards the bigger goals such as paid content or receiving items and products to review and for others, they like to take a step back, look at other areas for inspiration or even their own posts to remind themselves “why do I write/blog?”. It’s really interesting to see how everyone looks at it and it’s so reassuring to know that it’s okay no matter how you look at it or what you do.
So I think we’re just gonna play it casual, but with the hope of writing more regularly and more for me. I started blogging because I had lots of thoughts about being a new mum & how my life had totally changed and I feel like I’ve veered from that a little.
Now bear is older, I like to talk about things he loves, reviewing toys/books/trips out. But I also like to talk about me (without being too self centred) I like to talk about what I love to do (other than being mum) How I feel about current events or even just milestones in parenting as well as the baby milestones. I have a lot of ideas, I’m constantly thinking of things and noting them down, but I really need to give myself a kick up the bum to get them written and content produced.
How do you deal with it when you’re stuck in a rut or having issues and need to take a step back?