I’ll be honest, being a mum, although it was the only thing I ever wanted in the world, has not been a majorly easy ride. Parenting is hard, so hard. And although, some things have come fairly easy to me, I’ve also struggled a bit. I don’t feel like I should be admitting that but I should be honest. I’m forever putting myself down and feeling bad about myself as a person, a parent and a family woman. I’m so grateful for Naomi over at Me Becoming Mum for tagging me in the #RockingMotherhood tag, it’s been helping me to realise that actually, I’m doing great!
Here are the ten ways that I feel I am #rockingmotherhood…
1. I breastfed Bear, on demand, for 7 months!! We had struggles at the start, and our journey came to a sudden and unsuspecting end, but I’m so proud of myself for getting to 7 months!!
2. Since before he was even born, any money I had spare (in fact, as soon as I got paid) I always bought things for him that he needed, I’ve always provided for him, even when I was receiving SMP and times were hard for us as a family, we went without but Bear never had to, he even ate more than we did haha!
3. I’ve always, always tried to get out and about and involved in stuff with him. We’ve always attended groups (apart from a couple of months break before christmas as all of the centres near us were changing over & so groups were very limited) and if we haven’t been at any baby groups, we’ve been out meeting friends/family, at soft play or even just taking a drive/walk (probably having a nosey around the charity shops or looking at things we couldn’t afford haha!)
4. Before he was born (and even now) I have researched absolutely everything I was wanting to do as a parent. Whether that was breastfeeding, baby led weaning, safe co-sleeping, babywearing etc. I spent many hours looking everything up & asking people for advice as well as health visitors and midwives, even now at almost 11 months old, I’m forever asking my health visitor stuff.
5. I have returned to work, almost full time and have mostly been working night shifts (which, if anyone has done nights before, knows they are draining as anything without having a baby to come home to and look after) even though I did go off sick with stress, I am now back in work and braving leaving Bear for a few hours (like 12 *sob*).
6. I started blogging again when Bear was much much smaller. And, although I haven’t been the most consistent so far, I have kept it up. I’ve also recently gone self hosted, gotten my own domain, and I’m ready to rock the shit out of it!
7. I’ve always read books to Bear, every single day. Whether that be in the evening or we have a bit of quiet reading time during the day. I am a huge book lover, my mum is also a huge book lover the same as my nan, so I had to pass on my love of books to my child. He actually has a much bigger library of books than I do!
8. I used to be god awful at cooking! But since weaning, I’ve really upped my game! We have our tea around 5/5.30 every evening and it’s always something homemade and freshly cooked. Even the other day, when I made ham & cheese toasties, I had to glam it up a bit with a little salad & potatoes. But I felt good that I had provided a good meal for him, and us too!
9. Although I’m mostly followed by Bear and what he wants, I try to stick to a good routine with him, and have always tried some sort of routine since he was a few months old. It has changed slightly over time such as what time we start, what we use, how we do it. But he always has a lovely bath, followed by a snuggle and massage and then a bottle to sleep by 7.30. Even if we’re out visiting family or out for tea or anything, I still try my absolute hardest to get back to let him have his 7.30 bedtime. He’s always so much happier after his sleep when he goes to bed earlier.
10. I gave birth to him…and I kept him alive! I think that’s a pretty huge feat in itself! Birth was a bit of a crazy time for us, I even had to split it into Part 1 and Part 2 of our birth story, he was breech and I had blood pressure problems, I’d also lost almost the limit for needing a transfusion & the healing after the episiotomies was so exhausting, BUT, I did it, on just gas and air and now we are here, 10 months later. And I’m still so proud of myself for that.
A bit of a long post, and it has taken me a while to think of all the ways that I am #RockingMotherhood but I did it, I’m actually kind of proud that I managed to think of 10 points to be honest (I did have a little help thinking of points but we got there haha) I definitely think that on those days when I’m feeling super crappy & down, I will look back on this post and realise that actually, I’m not doing so bad at this motherhood business.
So, I now nominate these fellow mamas to tell me why they’re #RockingMotherhood;
Lisa at Lisa Cowan blog
Katie at Gold Dust blog
Jade at Raising the Rings
Jemma at Mayflower Blogs
Tasha at Mummy and Moose