I’m Ready for Another Baby…But Are We?

I’m Ready for Another Baby…But Are We?

I’ve said before that I’ve been broody for a long time. I felt I was ready for children before my partner & I started a relationship but obviously, I wasn’t going to compromise anything at the time & I was still finishing my studies at college. When we found out we were expecting Podge 5 years into our relationship, I was over the moon to say the least. It was everything I’d hoped for, especially after all of the troubles we faced with PCOS & contraceptive issues. During the pregnancy though, I still felt incredibly broody. My child would be born soon & I just wanted him/her here right now. And then another. It didn’t take long after he had entered our lives that I felt ready for the experience again.

I LOVED being pregnant. Even through any complaints, it was mostly such a great experience. I had no sickness, no complications (other than slight pre-eclampsia towards the end), my bump was growing wonderfully. Even my evenings were spent relaxing after tea & playing with bump in the bath or just giving a lovely massage (baby really seemed to like that & was rolling around like crazy!) But I wanted my baby here then, or at least, I’d have been more than happy with a babe in my arms & still having a bump to love and play with. I know it’s something I would experience again in a heartbeat. My labour didn’t go quite as planned either but it was perfect, to have little Podge in my arms and to become a family of 3.

It was from when Bear was coming up to 1 year old, I realised just how ready I actually was to have another. Thinking about how he’d been in our lives for a whole year & looking back on newborn/young baby pictures of him just made me miss that time so much. I could happily have my newborn baby again, all snuggly and innocently sweet. Or another? 

Right now, I am the readiest I’ve been for another baby in a long time. I crave for a tiny baby to cuddle & care for. Don’t get me wrong, I love bear more than anything, he is my absolute world. But I’ve realised, there is room in my heart to love another just how much I love him. He’s at the age where he is crawling, cruising, rolling, standing and climbing. He tries to move away from me as quickly as possible and he doesn’t stay still for nappy/outfit changes (or much else for that matter, his new fave is to try and turn around in his pram so he can potentially climb out of it). He’s just so fiercely independent and clever and I love watching him learning and growing. But he doesn’t need me as much anymore. And I think that’s what I crave the most. Having another tiny, innocent little baby to care for and who needs me constantly.

But is it the right time?

My body, my head & my heart are ready, but are we actually ready for another baby. We’re not in a house we love, we rent & don’t have a garden, it has 2 bedrooms so it’s not perfect for growing children ideally. We don’t have much money and we’re unable to save much right now, yes we have some bits left over from Bear (particularly bigger items like the pram/crib/cot/toys etc) but there will still be things we will need like a play gym, bouncer seat, clothes. Obviously those are bits we could get secondhand so we could definitely save money there, but do we have it available? Currently, we only have one income into the house and I work 30 hours a week so I’d definitely need to pick up some work for extra pennies. But that compromises how much time I have with Bear & childcare.

So practically it’s just not really the best decision for us right now but my heart is seriously fighting it. How do you know when you’re ready & how do you work it out?

24 Comments

  1. May 7, 2017 / 10:21 am

    I feel exactly the same as you! Alfie is 22 months and I’ve been ready for another since he was about 6 months old. However our circumstances also meant we couldn’t have another as soon as I wanted. We also rent a 2bed maisonette with no garden and whilst we’d “cope” it wouldn’t be ideal. We’ve just purchased our first home and are discussing baby no.2 next year. It’s a lot later than we originally wanted but I think we would have regretted rushing in too quickly. It’s tough though dealing with those feelings of broodiness so I know exactly how you feel!

    • May 7, 2017 / 10:50 am

      Thank you so much lovely! It is so hard, like I’m looking at baby clothes and cooing over them, yeah bear is still in 9-12 but more like girls sizes or stuff that wouldn’t suit him but would a tiny baby. It is so so hard. I just crave it so bad but I know that saving would be so much harder and we can’t save now 🙁 a baby would fit in to our family so well right now, I think we’d all adapt but you’ve gotta do what’s right in all aspects right? Bless you that’s so exciting having bought your first family home! And I hope plans for baby no.2 come sooner than expected 🙊 xx

  2. May 10, 2017 / 5:26 pm

    For a long time I was the same but thankfully I seem to be past the broody stage and now with 6 kids we have called time on the baby factory and I’m ok with that!

    • May 11, 2017 / 8:54 am

      Oh wow you superwoman!! 6 kids that must be amazing & messy haha! Xx

    • May 11, 2017 / 8:55 am

      Thanks lovely, that does give me hope. It’s so crap with having no garden etc though & it’s not like we can afford to move 🙁 I’m sure if it came to it though we would be over the moon 🙂 xx

  3. May 10, 2017 / 8:09 pm

    This is just like me. I am desperate for another baby but my partner doesn’t wan one. We have 3 kids and there isn’t space in our house. But there is space in my heart and now my youngest is 13 months, there is space in my arms too 🙁 I have vlogged about things I hate about pregnancy and the things the children do to wind me up but really it is the best thing in the world and my heart aches at the thought of not having another child.

    • May 11, 2017 / 8:56 am

      Oh gosh I totally get you, I get frustrated sometimes but I wouldn’t change it for the world. My little bear just doesn’t really need me half as much anymore & I miss that 🙁 bless you, I’m sorry your husband doesn’t feel the same 🙁 xx

  4. May 10, 2017 / 9:18 pm

    I’ve been in two minds for a while whether I want another now or not. I long to have a tiny baby again (Isla has just turned one) but I also want to appreciate her growing up a bit more on her own first. Plus we also only have one income at the moment.

    • May 11, 2017 / 8:58 am

      I’m totally with you, I always said I wanted to appreciate him and spend time with him growing before we had another but I feel like now is the time. Like Amy said though, if it’s something we want, we will make it work 🙂 for now I’ll stick with watching one born every week haha! Xx

  5. May 10, 2017 / 9:29 pm

    Ah I can relate! Although I hate pregnancy I do love having more children. We have 3 now and I feel we could go on to have a fourth but definitely not anytime soon. Hope you work it out 😊 X

    • May 11, 2017 / 9:03 am

      Aww bless you, maybe in a year or so we will hear about a new addition? 🙊 thanks lovely xx

  6. May 10, 2017 / 9:29 pm

    Ah I can relate! Although I hate pregnancy I do love having more children. We have 3 now and I feel we could go on to have a fourth but definitely not anytime soon. Hope you work it out 😊 X

  7. May 11, 2017 / 5:49 am

    When is a good time! I wouldn’t get too bogged down on the small stuff! Your home seems like a loving one and look how cute your little bear is, why not add to that! I too am desperate for another and have been thinking about it for a while. We too have a 2 bedroom home, but thats ok and I am happy for all of us to snuggle together, or the partner can always sleep in the tub lol!

    • May 11, 2017 / 9:04 am

      Haha I guess there’s never really a perfect time to have a baby, obviously If it happened that I was expecting, we would just be over the moon & deal with it as it is but I guess it’s just when you really think is it practical etc. Haha I definitely make cute children don’t I 😂 xx

  8. May 11, 2017 / 7:55 am

    Awww Claire I would love for you to have another, you are such a good mum to bear!! I am also incredibly broody.

    • May 11, 2017 / 9:08 am

      Aww thank you beautiful! Hahaha it’s crazy, so many babies have been born recently and I’m just 😍😍😍😍 haha! Xx

  9. May 20, 2017 / 7:23 am

    In our house it’s the other way my husband would love another baby but I’m really not ready and not sure if I ever will be.

  10. May 20, 2017 / 8:19 am

    I’m having the same problem, my heart is in it but im not sure it’s the right time. But is there ever a right time? I don’t know, planning on waiting until the end of the year. Zoe x
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  11. May 20, 2017 / 8:46 am

    This is something I can relate to so much. I get so torn between being broody and wanting another and then the practical side of me that asks whether we can afford it and whether we could actually cope (and enjoy them!) right now! It’s so hard but I think that you just know when the time is right, there’s never going to be a perfect moment but for us it’s things like making sure the work is finished on our house and working out the costs/my work etc because I want to enjoy a new addition, not be stressing about HAVING to go back to work early etc etc! Good luck with finding the right time, you’re a great mum and I know that you’d be awesome the second time round as well (and Bear would LOVE it!)

  12. May 20, 2017 / 11:40 am

    Is anyone ever really ready? Even when you think you are? That’s how I feel about it anyone. When a second comes along it’ll just fit and work no matter what the situation. We’re so excited to welcome our first though xx

  13. May 20, 2017 / 11:59 am

    I always think that there is never a right time you just have to go for it. Things have a way of working themselves out, I totally get where your coming from though.We have two children and we lived in a two bed up until last year and we made it work. I am a worrier though and money is always the number one thing I worry about but having our second child was the best decision we ever made x

  14. May 20, 2017 / 7:46 pm

    OMG YES.
    I wanted another baby when Rory was just a few days old. I felt so happy he was here, but so lonely not having him in my tummy moving around. It was a crazy emotion to feel.

    Since he’s been six months, if Rich gave me the green light I would have another in a heartbeat. Whether I could cope with two so young is a different story and I don’t think my body has healed enough just yet.

    I honestly would keep having babies if money/time was no object!

  15. May 21, 2017 / 2:26 pm

    Oh, I love the honesty in this post Claire! I totally understand what you mean about wanting another baby, someone that needs you as these boys of ours are so fiercely independent now! Id love another but I do feel different though, I just don’t know how I could ever love another baby as much as I love B. I’d feel so guilty, does that make sense? You’re a fantastic mum, you’d make it work x
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